The 3 Stages of a Relationship when one Partner has ADHD

Navigating a relationship can be both exciting and challenging, and when one partner has ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), it adds an extra layer of complexity. The impact of ADHD on a relationship can go through distinct stages, each with its own set of dynamics and adjustments. Understanding these stages can help partners with ADHD and their significant others navigate their journey together with compassion and insight.

In this article, we will explore the three stages commonly observed in relationships where one partner has ADHD: the the honeymoon stage, the adjustment stage, and the acceptance stage. By gaining a deeper understanding of these stages, we can better equip ourselves to build stronger and more resilient relationships while managing the unique challenges associated with ADHD.

What are the three stages a couple may grow through when partner has ADHD?

When one partner has ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), it can significantly influence the dynamics and journey of a relationship. Couples in this situation often experience distinct stages of growth and adaptation as they navigate the unique challenges posed by ADHD. Understanding these stages can provide valuable insights and guidance for both partners, fostering empathy, communication, and mutual support.

Stage 1: The honeymoon stage

At the beginning of a relationship where one partner has ADHD, there is often a mix of excitement and novelty. The partner without ADHD may be drawn to the hyper focus and creativity displayed by their partner with ADHD. However, this stage is not without its challenges. The partner without ADHD may not fully comprehend the impact of ADHD on daily life, leading to misunderstandings and frustrations. The initial attraction can be overshadowed by the difficulties in managing time, organization, and impulsivity, which can strain the relationship.

As the relationship progresses, the couple enters the second stage characterized by increased awareness and understanding of ADHD. Both partners begin to recognize the specific challenges and patterns associated with ADHD. They may seek education and support to learn more about the disorder and its impact on their relationship. This stage involves open communication, empathy, and a shared commitment to finding strategies that accommodate the needs of both partners. By acknowledging and addressing the unique dynamics influenced by ADHD, couples can work together to navigate challenges and establish a foundation of trust, patience, and understanding.

Stage 2: The adjustment stage

In the adjustment stage of a relationship where one partner has ADHD, the realities of the condition become more pronounced. The partner without ADHD may begin to observe difficulties in areas such as organization, time management, and impulsivity. This stage is often marked by frustration and misunderstandings as both partners grapple with the unique challenges that ADHD presents.

Communication becomes crucial during this period as the couple strives to better understand and accommodate each other’s needs while finding ways to effectively manage the impact of ADHD on their daily lives and relationship dynamics. It is a time of learning, adaptation, and seeking strategies to promote harmony and balance within the relationship.

Stage 3: The acceptance stage

During this stage, both partners have gained a deeper understanding of ADHD and its impact on their relationship. They collaborate to find strategies and accommodations that can effectively support the partner with ADHD. Open and honest communication becomes essential as they navigate the challenges and triumphs of living with ADHD.

Patience and empathy play crucial roles in this stage, as both partners learn to adapt to the unique needs and dynamics associated with ADHD. Together, they work towards creating an environment of understanding, support, and mutual growth, fostering a stronger and more resilient relationship.

Partner without ADHD feelings

A partner without ADHD may experience unique challenges and emotions when navigating a relationship with a partner who has ADHD. Often times this partner may:

  • feel ignored, lonely, unloved or unappreciated
  • feel as if they cannot trust their partner
  • feel as if their being invalidated, unheard
  • feelings of unfairness and as if they are taking on the “load” in the relationship with tasks (housework, chores, parental responsibilities)
  • feel resentment and anger
  • feel uncomfortable and as if they are “walking on eggshells”
  • Increased stress response, exhaustion

Understanding and supporting their partner’s ADHD symptoms and learning how to effectively communicate and adapt can be key to building a strong and fulfilling relationship.

Partner with ADHD feelings

For individuals with ADHD, being in a relationship can bring its own set of experiences and dynamics as well. The partner may:

  • feel overwhelmed
  • feel as though their partner is trying to micromanage them or control their life
  • feel shame and inferior to their partner
  • feel shame and inferior to their partner
  • be hypersensitive to criticism and become resentful, which then
  • may lead to avoidance of their partner and relationship

It’s important to note that these experiences can vary greatly depending on the individuals involved and their specific circumstances. Communication, empathy, and a willingness to understand each other’s perspectives can help foster a deeper connection and support both partners in navigating the challenges that ADHD may bring to the relationship.

If you find it challenging to navigate your relationship, do not hesitate to seek professional assistance. We offer a complimentary 15-minute video consultation, where you can reach out to us for support and guidance.

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