Kathy Dahmer, MDiv, RP

About Kathy

Have you ever wondered how it is that you are having the same argument over and over? Do
you feel at times you’re at an impasse and even simple communication is difficult? One is
always angry or distant, the other is always defensive or critical and both of you are hurting and
wondering how you got here. Sometimes as couples we get stuck in a pattern and we can’t find
our way forward on our own. Often we wait until we are completely stuck before we ask for help.
All of us tend to want to manage on our own, until what we were doing no longer works.

In couples counseling I will listen to the bigger story of what’s been difficult and attend to the raw
spots that have been activated in your relationship. We find our way forward by recognizing the
pattern that has kept you stuck. I will work with you to understand your emotions and find new
ways to communicate so that it is safe to be vulnerable and reach for each other once again.

Experience:
Kathy is a Registered Psychotherapist and a University of Toronto graduate with a Master’s
degree in Divinity. She has completed her advanced training in Clinical Pastoral Education, and
works as a Spiritual Care Practitioner in the HealthCare System. She is currently working on
various medical units including acute inpatient psychiatry and the children’s mental health unit.
Over the past five years, she has worked in private practice, specializing in supporting
individuals, families and couples dealing with depression, anxiety, trauma and interpersonal or
relationship challenges. She is also an advanced grief recovery specialist and works on-call at
the hospice and leads grief support groups in the community.

Client Focus: Individuals, Couples, Families, Youth

Types of Therapy: Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) for Individuals and Couples, EFT Complex
Trauma, Grief Recovery

Issues:
Grief, Anxiety, Depression, Trauma
Marriage/Couples Counselling, Parenting Issues, Youth Mental Health, Complex
Grief and/or Trauma, Spiritual Distress

Personally Speaking:
“Someday I hope to be the person my dog thinks I am”
“Compassion is fueled by understanding and accepting that we’re all made of strength and
struggle—no one is immune to pain or suffering. Compassion is not a practice of ‘better than’ or
‘I can fix you’—it’s a practice based in the beauty and pain of shared humanity.” Brene Brown